Thursday, October 28, 2010

Finished reading this book...


1st Ritual - Link Paycheck to Purpose.
The Ritual of a Compelling Future Focus
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2nd Ritual - Manage by Mind, Lead by Heart.
The Ritual of Human Relations
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3rd Ritual - Reward Routinely, Recognize Relentlessly.
The Ritual of Team Unity
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4th Ritual - Surrender to Change.
The Ritual of Adaptability and Change Management
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5th Ritual - Focus on the Worthy.
The Ritual of Personal Effectiveness
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6th Ritual - Leader Lead Thyself.
The Ritual of Self-Leadership
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7th Ritual - See What All See, Think What None Think.
The Ritual of Creativity and Innovation
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8th Ritual - Link Leadership to Legacy.
The Ritual of Contribution and Significance


My new house is going to be ready, soon little Alex will be a little happy girl. She will have her own bicycle, her own table, her own chair, her own toys, etc.


outside the main door...


the door is new one...


the room's door knob...


bathroom...


do I need to introduce this?


my parent's room...


this is my room...


living room...


Extension for the wall... there will be a mini store-room..


Oops, got a little crack at the wall... and it's being settled.


kitchen... it's getting started....


this is what my kitchen will looks like.... tentatively.

Saturday, October 16, 2010

李嘉誠給年輕商人的98條忠告

1. 我17歲就開始做做批發的推銷員,就更加體會到掙錢的不容易、生活的艱辛了。人家做8個小時,我就做16個小時。

2. 我們的社會中沒有大學文憑、白手起家而終成大業的人不計其數,其中的優秀企業家群體更是引人註目。他們通過自己的活動為社會作貢獻,社會也回報他們以崇高榮譽和巨額財富。

3. 精明的商家可以將商業意識滲透到生活的每一件事中去,甚至是一舉手一投足。充滿商業細胞的商人,賺錢可以是無處不在、無時不在。

4. 我凡事必有充分的準備然後才去做。一向以來,做生意處理事情都是如此。例如天文臺說天氣很好,但我常常問我自己,如5分鐘後宣佈有臺風,我會怎樣?在香港做生意,亦要保持這種心理準備。

5. 精明的商人只有嗅覺敏銳才能將商業情報作用發揮到極致,那種感覺遲鈍、閉門自鎖的公司老闆常常會無所作為。

6. 我從不間斷讀新科技、新知識的書籍,不至因為不瞭解新訊息而和時代潮流脫節。

7. 即使本來有一百的力量足以成事,但我要儲足二百的力量去攻,而不是隨便去賭一賭。

8. 擴張中不忘謹慎,謹慎中不忘擴張。……我講求的是在穩健與進取中取得平衡。船要行得快,但面對風浪一定要捱得住。

9. 好的時候不要看得太好,壞的時候不要看得太壞。最重要的是要有遠見,殺雞取卵的方式是短視的行為。

10. 不必再有絲毫猶豫,競爭既搏命,更是鬥智鬥勇。倘若連這點勇氣都沒有,談何在商場立腳,超越置地?

11. 對人誠懇,做事負責,「多結善緣」,自然多得人的幫助。淡泊明誌,隨遇而安,不作非分之想,心境安泰,必少許多失意之苦。

12. 在逆境的時候,你要問自己是否有足夠的條件。當我自己逆境的時候,我認為我夠!因為我勤奮、節儉、有毅力,我肯求知及肯建立一個信譽。

13. 做生意一定要同打球一樣,若第一桿打得不好的話,在打第二桿時,心更要保持鎮定及有計劃,這並不是表示這個會輸。就好比是做生意一樣,有高有低,身處逆境時,你先要鎮定考慮如何應付。

14. 我表面謙虛,其實很驕傲,別人天天保持現狀,而自己老想著一直爬上去,所以當我做生意時,就警惕自己,若我繼續有這個驕傲的心,遲早有一天是會碰壁的。

15. 當生意更上一層樓的時候,絕不可有貪心,更不能貪得無厭。

16. 任何一種行業,如有一窩蜂的趨勢,過度發展,就會造成摧殘。

17. 隨時留意身邊有無生意可做,才會抓住時機。著手越快越好。遇到不尋常的事發生時立即想到賺錢,這是生意人應該具備的素質。

18. 人才缺乏,要建國圖強,亦徒成虛願。反之,資源匱乏的國家,若人才鼎盛,善於開源節流,則自可克服各種困難,而使國勢蒸蒸日上。從歷史上看,資源貧乏之國不一定衰弱,可為明證。

19. 假如今日,如果沒有那麼多人替我辦事,我就算有三頭六臂,也沒有辦法應付那麼多的事情,所以成就事業最關鍵的是要有人能夠幫助你,樂意跟你工作,這就是我的哲學。

20. 你們不要老提我,我算什麼超人,是大家同心協力的結果。我身邊有300員虎將,其中100人是外國人,200人是年富力強的香港人。

21. 長江取名基於長江不擇細流的道理,因為你要有這樣豁達的胸襟,然後你才可以容納細流——沒有小的支流,又怎能成長江?

22. 在我心目中,不理你是什麼樣的膚色,不理你是什麼樣的國籍,只要你對公司有貢獻,忠誠、肯做事、有歸屬感,即有長期的打算,我就會幫他慢慢地經過一個時期而成為核心分子,這是我公司一向的政策。

23. 一個總司令,是一個集團軍的統帥,拿起機關鎗總不會勝過機關鎗手,走到炮兵隊操作大炮也不如炮兵。但作為集團軍的總司令不要管這些,只要懂得運用戰略便可以,所以整個組織十分重要。

24. 人才取之不盡,用之不竭。你對人好,人家對你好是自然的,世界上任何人都可以成為你的核心人物。

25. 知人善任,大多數人都會有部分的長處,部分的短處,各盡所能,各得所需,以量才而用為原則。

26. 可以毫不誇張地說,一個大企業就像一個大家庭,每一個員工都是家庭的一分子。就憑他們對整個家庭的巨大貢獻,他們也實在應該取其所得,只有反過來說,是員工養活了整個公司,公司應該多謝他們都對。

27. 不為五鬥米折腰的人,在哪裏都有。你千萬別傷害別人的尊嚴,尊嚴是非常脆弱的,經不起任何的傷害。

28. 在我的企業內,人員的流失及跳槽率很低,並且從沒出現過工潮。最主要的是員工有歸屬感,萬眾一心。

29. 有錢大家賺,利潤大家分享,這樣才有人願意合作。假如拿10%的股份是公正的,拿11%也可以,但是如果只拿9%的股份,就會財源滾滾來。

30. 我老是在說一句話,親人並不一定就是親信。一個人你要跟他相處,日子久了,你覺得他的思路跟你一樣是正面的,那你就應該可以信任他;你交給他的每一項重要工作,他都會做,這個人就可以做你的親信。

31. 人要去求生意就比較難,生意跑來找你,你就容易做,那如何才能讓生意來找你?那就要靠朋友。如何結交朋友?那就要善待他人,充分考慮到對方的利益。

32. 有金錢之外的思想,保留一點自己值得自傲的地方,人生活得更加有意義。   33. 以往我是百分之九十九是教孩子做的道理,現在有時會與他們談生意……但約三分之一談生意,三分之二教他們做人的道理。因為世情才是大學問。

34. 壞人固然要防備,但壞人畢竟是少數,人不能因噎廢食,不能為了防備極少數壞人連朋友也拒之門外。更重要的是,為了防備壞人的猜疑,算計別人,必然會使自己成為孤家寡人,,既沒有了朋友,也失去了事業上的合作者,最終只能落個失敗的下場。

35. 那些私下忠告我們,指出我們錯誤的人,才是真正的朋友。

36. 商業合作必須有三大前提:一是雙方必須有可以合作的利益,二是必須有可以合作的意願,三是雙方必須有共享共榮的打算。此三者缺一不可。

37. 不義而富且貴,於我如浮動。是我的錢,一塊錢掉在地上我都會去撿。不是我的,一千萬塊錢送到我家門口我都不會要。我賺的錢每一毛錢都可以公開,就是說,不是不明白賺來的錢。

38. 我覺得,顧及對方的利益是最重要的,不能把目光僅僅局限在自己的利上,兩者是相輔相成的,自己捨得讓利,讓對方得利,最終還是會給自己帶來較大的利益。佔小便宜的不會有朋友,這是我小的時候我母親就告訴給我的道理,經商也是這樣。

39. 一個人一旦失信於人一次,別人下次再也不願意和他交往或發生貿易往來了。別人寧願去找信用可靠的人,也不願意再找他,因為他的不守信用可能會生出許多麻煩來。

40. 如果取得別人的信任,你就必須做出承諾,一經承諾之後,便要負責到底,即使中途有困難,也要堅守諾言。

41. 我生平最高興的,就是我答應幫助人家去做的事,自己不僅是完成了,而且比他們要求的做得更好,當完成這些信諾時,那種興奮的感覺是難以形容的……

42. 世情才是學問。世界上每一個人都精明,要令大家信服並喜歡和你你交往,那才是最重要。

43. 註重自己的名聲,努力工作、與人為善、遵守諾言,這樣對你們的事業非常有幫助。

44. 講信用,夠朋友。這麼多年來,差不多到今天為止,任何一個國家的人,任何一個省份的中國人,跟我做夥伴的,合作之後都成為好朋友,從來沒有一件事鬧過不開心,這一點是我引以為榮的事。

45. 我個人對生活一無所求,吃住都十分簡單,上天給我的恩賜,我並沒多要財產的奢求。如果此生能做多點對人類、民族、國家長治久安有益的事,我是樂此不疲的。

46. 保持低調,才能避免樹大招風,才能避免成為別人進攻的靶子。如果你不過分顯示自己,就不會招惹別人的敵意,別人也就無法捕捉你的虛實。

47. 如果單以金錢來算,我在香港第六、七名還排不上,我這樣說是有事實根據的。但我認為,富有的人要看他是怎麼做。照我現在的做法我為自己內心感到富足,這是肯定的。

48. 做人最要緊的,是讓人由衷地喜歡你,敬佩你本人,而不是你的財力,也不是表面上讓人聽你的。

49. 絕不同意為了成功而不擇手段,刻薄成家,理無久享。

50. 一個有使命感的企業家,應該努力堅持走一條正途,這樣我相信大家一定可以得到不同程度的成就。

51. 要成為一位成功的領導者,不單要努力,更要聽取別人的意見,要有忍耐力,提出自己意見前,更要考慮別人的意見,最重要的是創出新穎的意念…… 作為一個領袖,第一最重要的是「責已以嚴,待人以寬」;第二。要令他人肯為自己辦事,並有歸屬感。機構大必須依靠組織,在二三十人的企業,領袖走在最前端 便最成功。當規模擴大至幾百人,領袖還是要去參與工作,但不一定是走在前面的第一人。要大便要靠組織,否則,便遲早會撞板,這樣的例子很多,百多年的銀行也一朝崩潰。

52. 未攻之前一定先要守,每一個政策的實施之前都必須做到這一點。當我著手進攻的時候,我要確信,有超過百分之一百的能力。換句話說,即使本來有一百的力量足以成事,但我要儲足二百的力量才去攻,而不是隨便去賭一賭。

53. 與其到頭來收拾殘局,甚至做成蝕本生意,倒不如當時理智克制一些。

54. 眼睛僅盯在自己小口袋的小商人,眼光放在世界大市場的是大商人。同樣是商人,眼光不同,境界不同,結果也不同。

55. 身處在瞬息萬變的社會中,應該求創新,加強能力,居安思危,無論你發展得多好,時刻都要做好準備。

56. 中華民族勤勞勇敢,堅忍不拔,雖然歷史上有過受辱挨打的過去,但是現在走正確的道路必然會有著光明的未來。無論哪個民族和人民,都是愛自己國家……

57. 力爭上遊,雖然辛苦,但也充滿了機會。我們做任何事,都應該有一番雄心壯誌,立下遠大和目標,用熱忱激發自己幹事業的動力。

58. 人,第一要有誌,第二要有識,第三要有恆,有誌則斷不甘為下流。

59. 知識不僅是指課本的內容,還包括社會經驗、文明文化、時代精神等整體要素,才有競爭力,知識是新時代的資本,五六十年代人靠勤勞可以成事;今天的香港要搶知識,要以知識取勝。

60. 人們讚譽我是超人,其實我並非天生就是優秀的經營者。到現在我只敢說經營得還可以,我是經歷了很多挫折和磨難之後,才領會一些經營的要訣的。

61. 今天在競爭激烈的世界中,你付出多一點,便可贏得多一點。好像奧運會一樣,如果跑短賽,雖然是跑第一的那個贏了,但比第二、第三的只勝出少許,只要快一點,便是贏。

62. 當你作出決定後,便要一心一意地朝著目標走,常常記著名譽是你的最大資產,今天便要建立起來。

63. 在事業上謀求成功,沒有什麼絕對的公式,但如果能依賴某些原則的話,能將成功的希望提高許多。

64. 苦難的生活,是我人生的最好鍛煉,尤其是做推銷員,使我學會了不少的東西,明白了不少事理。所以這些,是我天10億100億也買不到的。

65. 我認為勤奮是個人成功的要素,所謂「一分耕耘,一分收穫」,一個人所獲得的報酬和成果,與他所付出的努力是有極大的關係。運氣只是一個小因素,個人的努力才是創造事業的最基本條件。

66. 創業的過程,實際上就是恆心和毅力堅持不懈的發展過程,其中並沒有什麼秘密,但要真正做到中國古老的格言所說的勤和儉也不太容易。而且,從創業之初開始,還要不斷學習,把握時機。

67. 在看蘇東坡的故事後,就知道什麼叫無故受傷害。蘇東坡沒有野心,但就是給人陷害,他弟弟說得對:「我哥哥錯在出名,錯在出高調。」這個真是很無奈的過失。

68. 年輕時我表面謙虛,其實我內心很驕傲。為什麼驕傲呢?因為同事們去玩的時候,我去求學問;他們每天保持原狀,而自己的學問日漸提高。

69. 我這棵小樹是從沙石風雨中長出來的,你們可以去山上試試,由沙石長出來的小樹,要拔去是多麼的費力啊!但從石縫裏長出來的小樹,則更富有生命力。

70. 科技世界深如海,正如曾國藩所說的,必須「有智、有識」,當你懂得一門技藝,並引以為榮,便愈知道深如海,而我根本未到深如海的境界,我只知道別人走快我們幾十年,我們現在才起步追,有很多東西要學習。

71. 無論何種行業,你越拚搏,失敗的可能性越大,但是你有知識,沒有資金的話,小小的付出就能夠有回報,並且很可能達到成功。

72. 從前經商,只要有些計謀,敏捷迅速,就可以成功;可現在的企業家,還必須要有相當豐富的知識資產,對於國內外的地理、風俗、人情、市場調查、會計統計等都非常熟悉不可。

73. 一個人憑己的經驗得出的結論當然是最好,但是時間就浪費得多了,如果能將書本知識和實際工作結合起來,那才是最好的。

74. 下一個世紀的企業家將和我完全不同,因新世紀企業家的成功取決於科技和知識,而不是錢。

75. 作為父母,讓孩子在十五六歲就遠離家鄉,遠離親人,隻身到外面去求學深造,當然是有些於心不忍,但是為了他們的將來,就是再不忍心也要忍心。

76. 如果在競爭中,你輸了,那麼你輸在時間;反之,你贏了,也贏在時間。

77. 世界上並非每一件事情,都是金錢可以解決的,但是確實有很多事情需要金錢才能解決。

78. 我的錢來自社會,也應該用於社會,我已不再需要更多的錢,我賺錢不是只為了自己。為了公司,為了股東,也為了替社會多做些公益事業,把多餘的錢分給那些殘疾及貧困的人。

79. 萬一真的失敗了,也不必怨恨,慢慢圖謀東山再起的機會,只要一息尚存,仍有作最後決戰的本錢。

80. 一個人除了賺錢滿足自己的成就感之外,就是為了讓自己生活得更好一點,如果只顧賺錢,並賠上自己的健康,那是很不值得的。

81. 做事投入是十分重要的。你對你的事業有興趣,你的工作一定會做得好。

82. 盡量擠出時間使自己得到良好的休息。只有得到良好的休息,才會有充沛、旺盛的精力去面對突如其來發生的各種事情。

83. 衣服和鞋子是什麼牌子,我都不怎麼講究。一套西裝穿十年八年是很平常的事。我的皮鞋十雙有五雙是舊的。皮鞋壞了,扔掉太可惜,補好了照樣可以穿。我手上戴的手錶,也是普通的,已經用了好多年。

84. 我覺得一家幸福是最緊要,生意起跌是小事。生意今日起,明日跌,一家人開心最緊要。

85. 商業的存在除了創造繁榮和就業,最大作用是服務人類的需要。企業是為股東謀取利潤的,但應該堅持固定文化,這裏經營的其中一項成就,是企業長遠發展最好的途徑。

86. 為了適應時代發展變化的需要,也為了企業自身的生存和發展,企業必須以市場為導向、以創新為手段、以效率為核心,重建企業形象。

87. 我們長江要生存,就得要競爭;要競爭,就必須有好的質量。只有保證質量,才能保證信譽,才能保證長江的發展壯大。

88. 我對自己有一個約束,並非所有賺錢的生意都做。有些生意,給多少錢讓我賺,我都不賺……有些生意,已經知道是對人有害,就算社會容許做,我都不做。

89. 領導全心協力投入熱誠,是企業最大的鼓動力。與員工互動溝通,對同事尊重,才可建立團隊精神。人才難求,對具備創意、膽識及謹慎態度的同事,應給予良好的報酬和顯示明確的前途。

90. 對一個職工,如果他平時馬馬虎虎,我會十分生氣,一定會批評,但他有時做錯事,你應該給他機會去改正。

91. 大部分的人都有部分長處部分短處,好像大象食量以鬥計,螞蟻一小勺便足夠。各盡所能,各得所需,以量才而用為原則;又像一部機器,假如主要的機件需要用五百匹馬力去發動,雖然半匹馬力與五匹馬力相比是小得多,但也能發揮其一部分作用。

92. 中國古人講:「萬變不離其宗。」這個「宗」就是指「合乎實際情況,合乎道理」。變是一定要變的,這個世界本來就是豐富多彩的,千變萬化的。

93. 要給員工好的待遇及前途,讓他們有受重視的感覺。當然,還要有良好的監督和制衡制度,不然山高皇帝遠,一個好人也會變壞。

94. 雖然老闆受到的壓力較大,但是做老闆所賺的錢,已經多過員工很多,所以我事事總不忘提醒自己,要多為員工考慮,讓他們得到應得的利益。

95. 我認為要像西方那樣,有制度且比較進取,用兩種方式來做,而不是全盤西化或是全盤儒家。儒家有它的好處,也有它的短處,儒家在進取方面是很不夠的。

96. 一間小的家庭式公司要一手一腳去做,得當公司發展大子,便要讓員工有歸屬感,令他們感到安心,這是十分重要的。管理之道,簡單來說是知人善任,但在原則上一定要令他們有歸屬感,要他們喜歡你.

97. 只有博大的胸襟,自己才不會那麼驕傲,不會認為自己樣樣出眾,承認其他人的長處,得到他人的幫助,這便是古人所說的「有容乃大」的道理。

98. 凡事都留個餘地,因為人是人,人不是神,不免有錯處,可以原諒人的地方,就原諒人。

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

What Constitutes a Good Life? by Jim Rohn
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The ultimate expression of life is not a paycheck. The ultimate expression of life is not a Mercedes. The ultimate expression of life is not a million dollars or a bank account or a home. Here's the ultimate expression of life in my opinion, and that is living the good life. Here's what we must ask constantly: "What for me would be a good life?" And you have to keep going over and over the list—a list including areas such as spirituality, economics, health, relationships and recreation. What would constitute a good life? I've got a short list.
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Number one, productivity. You won't be happy if you don't produce. The game of life is not rest. We must rest, but only long enough to gather strength to get back to productivity. What's the reason for the seasons and the seeds, the soil and the sunshine, the rain and the miracle of life? It's to see what you can do with it—to try your hand. Other people have tried their hand; here's what they did. You try your hand to see what you can do. So part of life is productivity.
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Next are good friends. Friendship is probably the greatest support system in the world. Don't deny yourself the time to develop this support system. Nothing can match it. It's extraordinary in its benefit. Friends are those wonderful people who know all about you and still like you. A few years ago I lost one of my dearest friends. He died at age 53—heart attack. David is gone, but he was one of my very special friends. I used to say of David that if I was stuck in a foreign jail somewhere accused unduly and if they would allow me one phone call, I would call David. Why? He would come and get me. That's a friend—somebody who would come and get you. Now we've all got casual friends. And if you called them they would say, "Hey, if you get back, call me and we'll have a party." So you've got to have both, real friends and casual friends.
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Next on the list of a good life is your culture. Your language, your music, the ceremonies, the traditions, the dress. All of that is so vitally important that you must keep it alive. In fact, it is the uniqueness of all of us that when blended together brings vitality, energy, power, influence, uniqueness and rightness to the world.
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Next is your spirituality. It helps to form the foundation of the family that builds the nation. And make sure you study, practice and teach. Don't be careless about the spiritual part of your nature; it's what makes us who we are, different from animal, dogs, cats, birds and mice. Spirituality.
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Next, here's what my parents taught me: Don't miss anything. Don't miss the game. Don't miss the performance, don't miss the movie, don't miss the show, don't miss the dance. Go to everything you possibly can. Buy a ticket to everything you possibly can. Go see everything and experience all you possibly can. This has served me so well to this day. Just before my father died at age 93, if you were to call him at 10:30 or 11:00 at night, he wouldn't be home. He was at the rodeo, he was watching the kids play softball, he was listening to the concert, he was at church; he was somewhere every night.
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Live a vital life. Here's one of the reasons why. If you live well, you will earn well. If you live well, it will show in your face, it will show in the texture of your voice. There will be something unique and magical about you if you live well. It will infuse not only your personal life but also your business life. And it will give you a vitality nothing else can give.
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Next are your family and the inner circle. Invest in them and they'll invest in you. Inspire them and they'll inspire you. With your inner circle take care of the details. When my father was still alive, I used to call him when I traveled. He'd have breakfast most every morning with the farmers. Little place called The Decoy Inn out in the country where we lived in Southwest Idaho. So Papa would go there and have breakfast and I'd call him just to give him a special day. Now, if I was in Israel, I'd have to get up in the middle of the night, but it only took five minutes, 10 minutes. So I'd call Papa and they'd bring him the phone. I'd say, "Papa I'm in Israel." He'd say, "Israel! Son, how are things in Israel?" He'd talk real loud so everybody could hear—my son's calling me from Israel. I'd say, "Papa, last night they gave me a reception on the rooftop underneath the stars overlooking the Mediterranean." He'd say, "Son, a reception on the rooftop underneath the stars overlooking the Mediterranean." Now everybody knows the story. It only took 5-10 minutes, but what a special day for my father, age 93.
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If a father walks out of the house and he can still feel his daughter's kiss on his face all day, he's a powerful man. If a husband walks out of the house and he can still feel the imprint of his wife's arms around his body, he's invincible all day. It's the special stuff with the inner circle that makes you strong and powerful and influential. So don't miss that opportunity. Here's the greatest value. The prophet said, "There are many virtues and values, but here's the greatest: one person caring for another." There is no greater value than love. Better to live in a tent on the beach with someone you love than to live in a mansion by yourself. One person caring for another, that's one of life's greatest expressions.
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So make sure in your busy day to remember the true purpose and the reasons you do what you do. May you truly live the kind of life that will bring the fruit and rewards that you desire.
Just sent the little girl to school. Later will be going to HDB to get my new house keys... Then I shall be the first one to sneak in and take some pics of it, haha...

Whenever we passed by, little Alex will be pointing to me. I told her that we will be staying in a smaller house, will she mind? She said... "Momo want to stay with papa..." "Want small dun want big..."

She is getting sensible now...

This is her latest new toy I bought from Sun Plaza on Sunday. I asked little Alex to think of a name for her...
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Facing the Enemies Within by Jim Rohn

We are not born with courage, but neither are we born with fear. Maybe some fears are brought on by your own experiences, by what someone has told you, by what you've read in the papers. Some fears are valid, like walking alone in a bad part of town at two o'clock in the morning. But once you learn to avoid that situation, you won't need to live in fear of it.
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Fears, even the most basic ones, can totally destroy our ambitions. Fear can destroy fortunes. Fear can destroy relationships. Fear, if left unchecked, can destroy our lives. Fear is one of the many enemies lurking inside us.
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Let me tell you about five of the other enemies we face from within. The first enemy that you've got to destroy before it destroys you is indifference. What a tragic disease this is. "Ho-hum, let it slide. I'll just drift along." Here's one problem with drifting: you can't drift your way to the top of the mountain.
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The second enemy we face is indecision. Indecision is the thief of opportunity and enterprise. It will steal your chances for a better future. Take a sword to this enemy.
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The third enemy inside is doubt. Sure, there's room for healthy skepticism. You can't believe everything. But you also can't let doubt take over. Many people doubt the past, doubt the future, doubt each other, doubt the government, doubt the possibilities and doubt the opportunities. Worst of all, they doubt themselves. I'm telling you, doubt will destroy your life and your chances of success. It will empty both your bank account and your heart. Doubt is an enemy. Go after it. Get rid of it.
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The fourth enemy within is worry. We've all got to worry some. Just don't let it conquer you. Instead, let it alarm you. Worry can be useful. If you step off the curb in New York City and a taxi is coming, you've got to worry. But you can't let worry loose like a mad dog that drives you into a small corner. Here's what you've got to do with your worries: drive them into a small corner. Whatever is out to get you, you've got to get it. Whatever is pushing on you, you've got to push back.
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The fifth interior enemy is over-caution. It is the timid approach to life. Timidity is not a virtue; it's an illness. If you let it go, it'll conquer you. Timid people don't get promoted. They don't advance and grow and become powerful in the marketplace. You've got to avoid over-caution.
Do battle with the enemy. Do battle with your fears. Build your courage to fight what's holding you back, what's keeping you from your goals and dreams. Be courageous in your life and in your pursuit of the things you want and the person you want to become.
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Overcoming the Fear of Rejection by Denis Waitley

To conquer your fear of rejection, you need to handle the word "no" in a constructive way. When people turn you down after a presentation, you have to interpret the "no" as "no this is not right for me now." We also can interpret "no" as meaning, "I need to know more about this opportunity or the products before I can say yes."
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I look at the service I offer to others as a gift that almost everyone desires. It's like a nutritious dessert. What if waiters or waitresses in a restaurant said to customers at their tables: "Would you like our special strawberry parfait for dessert? It's the best in the world!" And they were told "no" by their patrons, three out of five times.
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Would they go to their manager, throw up their hands and quit, lamenting, "They don't like me or my strawberry parfait"? Of course they wouldn't. They'd go on about their business, thinking the patrons had missed out on something delicious.
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That's why I treat products as a gift, much more nutritious and beneficial than a fruit dessert. But what is being rejected is the presentation, not the presenter. When I can separate my self-esteem from offering the products or business opportunity, I can live with rejection and look for ways to get a positive response more often.
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When you are experiencing rejection, that's the time to network with mentors and role models. It's also the time to listen to upbeat music and read articles like this, to attend meetings and .
conference calls, and to hang around with optimists and winners.
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There are basically four things we do in selling our products and services, and only four. We use the products and services ourselves, we talk to people about the products and services, we talk to people about the financial benefits we offer, and we coach them to refer us to others who do the same thing. First, we are coachable and willing to learn something new every day. Then, we become coaches. All you really need to move up to the next level is have faith in yourself.
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To laugh is to risk appearing the fool. To weep is to risk appearing sentimental. To reach out for another is to risk involvement. To expose your feelings is to risk revealing your true self. To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk rejection. To love is to risk not being loved in return. To live is to risk dying. To hope is to risk despair. To try is to risk failure. But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing at all. People who will risk nothing do nothing, have nothing, and become nothing. They may avoid suffering and sorrow, but they cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love or live. Chained by their certitudes, they are slaves.
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They have forfeited their freedom. Only a person who risks is truly free. And one last idea you can live and believe, is the more that you give, the more you'll receive.
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Einstein's Ability to Risk and Willingness to Be Wrong by Ron White

The early life of Albert Einstein gives us some clues to the great man that he would become. He was never one to dominate conversation to prove his intellect. Even as a child he didn’t talk much. It has been said that he didn’t talk until the age of 3 (there are conflicting accounts on this). However, what is not conflicting is that it took him a little longer to talk than the average child. But, we must remember that Albert Einstein was far from average.
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Einstein’s parents hardly coddled their firstborn. They gave him tremendous freedom to roam and grow. This no doubt had a positive outcome on his development. When he was just 4 years old, he was allowed to roam the neighborhood alone. Believe it or not, his parents even encouraged him to cross the street on his own at this young age. They watched the first few times to ensure that he looked both ways, but soon he was on his own doing this.
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Now, keep in mind when he was crossing the street he wasn’t dodging Fords, Chevrolets, Mercedes or cars with a lot of horsepower. He was dodging only true horse power! In other words, he was dodging horse-drawn carriages. But, it was still very dangerous for this young child. In our world today, I would not encourage my 4-year-old to roam the neighborhood alone or even allow him near the street. With that being said, the principles of self-reliance and risk that Einstein’s parents implemented in his life are ones that we can perhaps model on a smaller scale. Einstein certainly modeled this behavior with his own son on a smaller scale.
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In his late 20s, Einstein moved to Zurich with his first wife, Mileva, and their son. Friedrich Adler was living near Einstein and they became great friends. They would often get together to share ideas. Oftentimes their sons would get rowdy and it would be hard for the two men to talk. Other parents might barge in and tell their sons to be quiet, that they are having a meeting. Not Adler and Einstein. These great thinkers would climb into the attic to carry on their conversation. They allowed their boys to grow and explore even if they were noisy.
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His freedom as a child and the freedom he gave his son were in part due to his attitude on failure. He was not afraid to fail. After all, he tackled some of the most perplexing questions of our universe. Many would have shied away from tackling these questions simply because the rate of failure seemed extraordinarily high. However, it is evident that Einstein was not afraid to be wrong or to fail.
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When Einstein was 50 years old, reporters were hounding him for an interview during the time in which he was working on a unified field theory. Put into layman’s terms, this meant he was working on a theory that would put the entire universe into a mathematical equation. He had the attention of the world. Reporters parked outside his home in hopes of an interview. Many kept all-night vigils waiting for the story. As a rule, Einstein did not chase the spotlight and dodged the requests often. It was the same in this instance as well. He did, however, allow an interview with one reporter from the New York Times. You see the New York Times was edited by Carr Van Anda, and Van Anda had found an error in one of Einstein’s previous equations. Imagine that! The editor of the New York Times finding an error in the math of Einstein! Don’t you think that Einstein must have been irate that the editor would point this out? He must have been insulted. Actually, on the contrary, Einstein was impressed and that is the reason he allowed an interview to this reporter from the New York Times. You see, Einstein was not afraid to be wrong, and when corrected he was not insulted.
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At Princeton, Albert Einstein was more like a kindly uncle. When he arrived in 1935, he was asked what he would require for his study. He replied, “A desk, some pads and a pencil, and a large wastebasket—to hold all of my mistakes.”
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Albert Einstein spent his last two decades trying to reconcile quantum physics with relativity. His holy grail—a so-called “Unified Field Theory”—eluded him. He once casually mentioned to a colleague that he was on the verge of his “greatest discovery ever,” before admitting that “it didn’t pan out” just two weeks later.
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One day in his twilight years, he received a letter from a 15-year-old girl asking for help with a homework assignment. She soon received a curious reply: a page full of unintelligible diagrams, along with an attempt at consolation: “Do not worry about your difficulties in mathematics,” Einstein told her, “I can assure you that mine are much greater!”
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The man who was the greatest success at mathematics also failed a lot at them. But that didn’t stop him from moving forward.
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Not only was he willing to take risks in math, he also risked when he gambled. While attending a physics symposium in Las Vegas one year, Albert Einstein, to the astonishment of many of his sober-minded colleagues, spent a fair amount of time at the craps and roulette tables.
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“Einstein is gambling as if there were no tomorrow,” an eminent physicist remarked one day. “What troubles me,” another replied, “is that he may know something!”
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Too often in life, we attempt to spend all our energy demonstrating how we are right instead of accepting constructive criticism and getting better. This was not true of Einstein. Not only was he not afraid of being wrong, he was not afraid of being corrected. Ask yourself honestly: How do you respond when you are corrected? Do you lash out or are you grateful?
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If you want to develop the mind of Einstein, you must not be afraid to fail and allow yourself the opportunity to fail. Herman Melville put it this way: “He who has never failed somewhere, that man cannot be great.”
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Thomas Edison, when he was constructing the light bulb, built 1,000 prototypes that did not work before he successfully built one that we still use today. A reporter asked Edison how it felt to fail 1,000 times. Edison replied, “You misunderstand. I did not fail 1,000 times. I successfully found 1,000 ways that the light bulb would not work.” Edison, like Einstein, did not view failure the way so many do. They viewed it as acceptable and a way to learn and grow.
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The fear of failure could have paralyzed Einstein and Edison, yet it did not. What about you? Are you so paralyzed with fear that you have settled for mediocrity? Don’t allow that to happen. Embrace risk and failure. Learn that it is okay to be wrong, and run headlong into the rewards of risk, as Einstein did.
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Harness Your Brainpower by Harvey Mackay
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Knowledge is power.
How much do you know about everything? How much do you know about a lot of things? Okay, how much do you know about a few things?
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If these seem like odd questions, stop and ponder what you know versus what you don’t. Then consider how you would get along if you needed good information on topics that were outside your comfort zone.
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As former U.S. President Woodrow Wilson said, “I not only use all the brains I have but all that I can borrow.”
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I would add this: and all that I can buy, if necessary.
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I rely on experts for all kinds of information. I preach the importance of building a network of
experts before you need them so that they are there when you do. Whether it’s a surgeon, realtor, auto mechanic or a master salesperson, I want the best. And I will return the favor whenever I can, whether it’s business advice, a reference, or tickets to a sporting event, concert or the theatre.
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But let me make this very clear: I also rely on my own instincts, because, eventually, it all comes back to me. I weigh the information I receive from others, and make the best judgment I can. For instance, I am the first to admit that most technology baffles me. But show me how a new gizmo can make my life easier, make my business more successful, save me time, or just add to my fun, and I’m sold. That’s why I use a BlackBerry.
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I try to absorb and retain as much information from my experts as I can. You never know when it will come in handy, or when you will find another application for it.
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Carl Ally, founder of Ally & Gargano, one of the 20th century’s most successful advertising agencies, had an interesting take on knowledge: “The creative person wants to be a know-it-all. He wants to know about all kinds of things: ancient history, nineteenth century mathematics, current manufacturing techniques, flower arranging and hog futures, because he never knows when these ideas might come together to form a new idea. It may happen six minutes later or six months or six years down the road. But he has faith that it will happen.”
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All of us have the ability to gain more knowledge. The brain is amazing. While the old theory that we use only 10 percent of our brains has been widely debunked, there’s plenty of evidence that we can increase our brainpower, retention and focus. Plenty of books and websites offer all kinds of help. I’m not endorsing any specific method, but I would encourage you to check out ways to expand your horizons.
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In the meantime, you can take some basic steps to improve your knowledge:
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Read. Pick out books, newspapers, websites, encyclopedias, anything with information that teaches you something you didn’t already know. Play Trivial Pursuit or watch Jeopardy. Learn something new every day. In my opinion, there are no such things as useless facts. If it’s part of our world, it’s worth knowing. I will get on my soapbox here again: embrace lifelong learning.
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Listen. Sounds simple enough, but it’s so easy to be distracted. Focus on the speaker. If you don’t hear it the first time, ask the person to repeat it. Make sure you understand what’s been said. You will be surprised what you can learn.
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Pay attention to what’s happening around you. According to MENSA, the organization for people with high IQs, current research shows that at least 52 percent of our intelligence is based on our environment.
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Exercise and eat healthy. What’s good for the body is also good for the brain. Another reason not to put off taking care of yourself!
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Get some sleep. Our country is chronically sleep-deprived, which negatively affects our thought processes. So along with “beauty sleep,” go for the “smart sleep.”
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You will soon learn that you are capable of more than you imagined. You will also learn to recognize your limitations. If you know that you don’t know something, or don’t know how to find an answer, you’ll know it’s time to ask for help. Tap into all the brains you need—they just might not all be housed in your head.
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Mackay’s Moral: Sometimes being smart means recognizing when you’re not.

Monday, October 11, 2010

Saturday took little Alex to Jurong Point, cos' she is still not tired despite going out earlier on with her grandfather to play. I just wake up from my rest from last nite shift, and she jump onto me. Push her to bathe then dressed her up. I told her we are just going to Jurong Point but she insisted on wearing her "Little Miss Sunshine".
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She now is able to sit by herself on the bus and won't vomit anymore.
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She keep saying she wants to eat cake, so I took her to Starbucks... No table available.
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I think maybe Coffee Bean will be able to get a table, so we went to Coffee Bean.... Same there too.
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Then I decided to try my luck at basement level...

Saw New York, New York got a lot of empty tables...



I find this banner interesting, so...

Extra big cup of Root Beer Float.
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The last time I went to New York, New York was after our trip to Fort Canning with little Alex. That time I saw this but I didn't know which is the one in the menu, but this time round I got it so I treat little Alex. Boy, she is really happy.


Apple Crumble.
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I had the original Vanilla ice cream changed to the mango favour for an extra $1. No cakes for her, i guess this dessert will be just fine.
On Sunday, it's another day with little Alex again. This time I make her wear her "Little Miss Naughty" tee.
We went to Bukit Panjang Plaza this time round. It had been ages since I last went there. It changed a lot now. Little Alex was telling me she is hungry and also she wants to pee. So I took her to pee and we went hunting for a place to eat. I was looking around to search for any nice place to eat... Of cos' not Mac or KFC or any fast food restaurants. Oh yes, taking about Mac, now I no longer take her to Mac for fries. If you happen to see the truth behind Mac fries in Youtube...
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Then I spotted this restaurant...
I took a look at the menu and the price is reasonable, so we dine there.


This is Lychee Aloe with Wolfberry. You see the red colour thing floating, yeah, that is wolfberry. I guess that is good for little Alex to drink, so I ordered for her. In fact she eat all the wolfberry, lychee and aloe herself. I mean she scoop herself, I didn't feed her.


This is beef brisket noodles. Not really the name cos' the waitress change the brisket beef to fried beef.
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I placed my order and playing with little Alex when she came over and inform me that brisket beef will be spicy due to the way the kitchen prepared it and she ask me if I want to change it to another kind of beef. I asked her then which kind is not spicy and she changed it to fried beef.
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After lunch, we went around Bukit Panjang Plaza. We went from basement till the top floor. There is a playground on the left, but at that time it was sunny so no kids are playing. Then just beside it there is a sheltered air-inflated slide with kids playing there, but it cost $3 for little Alex to play there. I dun think it's worth the money so we left the place.
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She saw the LRT and she was pulling me to take it. I told her that is small train train, so we are going to take small train train. She even demonstrated to me what is small train train with her hand. She was showing me the hand signals of a short person on the ground, her hand is just a few cm off the ground. *small train train*
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So we took the LRT to Chua Chu Kang Lot 1. Spent about an hour there... Nothing much to see so we left again
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We went to Sun Plaza @Sembawang. At the entrance there is a push cart selling soft toys. I bought one soft toy for little Alex. It was not of those animals or what. I find it so cute cos' it looks like little Alex herself. I post it the next time here....
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I told her that in future she can choose to bring this new toy or Twiddle Bird or the "Big Head" toy. I make sure she likes it before I make the purchase... I had to ask her a few times and she nod her head. I show her 2 toys and she picked this one, so...
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Now she is getting to know what she wants and what she doesn't want. She doesn't talk rubbish so much now. What I tell her she can listen and ponder over. When she said yes, she means it.

Monday, October 04, 2010

Just a quick re-cap of what's happening for the past week... Got no time to blog or either the internet is so damn slow it takes ages to upload the pics...

I went swimming for the first time, the last time I swam was perhaps in 2009. Sent little Alex to school so I went to Jurong East Swimming Complex with Albert.

No pics taken there, how to take pics when I'm all wet?

Enjoyed myself at the pink slide/blue slide/lazy river, then there comes the wave. But too bad there is no sun and even it was 12pm at that time, I still didn't get suntanned. The good part is the weather is raining so we have to get our ass out of the pool. So our money is not worth that day....

After swimming we went for our lunch. Albert said his friend got a Western food stall so we went there to patron his stall.


I tell you, this is damn nice and it worth every cent. This dish you can't find it anywhere else. The beef is stewed for 5 hours, very nice and tender.

As you all know, 1st of Oct is Children's Day. So I took little Alex out for her little day. Afterall, it's once a year event. Went to City Hall-Esplanade for a short walk.

Took some pics too...


Can't see clearly?

A close-up shot...



OMG! Someone just died on the pavement?


Haha, what does this implies?


Nothing much to see there so we took the train to Orchard. We had something to drink at Starbucks. Little Alex was a naughty girl there, she keep on running away from her chair and I had to keep on catching her back. She didn't want to sit still even when I threaten her to put her in the tall chair. Initially I didn't want to bother about her, afterall she runs off and later she will come back on her own. Then I saw she playing near to the door so I quickly took her off and left Tanglin Mall.
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We went opposite to Orchard Parade Hotel for our lunch. We had Subway for our lunch. I ate most of it and little Alex had some too. And you know what, after our lunch she told me she wants to pee pee and she actually points to me where is the toilet. I just casually told her to go on her own, and she really did. I followed her at the back to see what she is up to...
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She actually went right into the cubicle and took off her pants and sit onto of the toilet bowl. After doing her business she tear off the tissue paper to clean herself and pull her pants up. I didn't assist her, I just watch what she did. Then she pull my hand and went to wash her hands. Wow!!! So now she can go to the toilet on her own... but still I can't really let her go on her own.
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Then I took her to the lobby to check out how much is the price for the lunch at the cafe over there.

Saw this nice clock at the top so I snap a pic of it.
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The cafe... maybe next time I shall dine there with little Alex, but since we already had our lunch earlier on so we left the hotel.
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Where to go next? As I took little Alex to the bus stop I saw something displaying outside the road...

There is a Japanese toy exhibition @ Japan Creative Centre, so we went it for a look. Anyway, it's free admission.
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Too bad that little Alex can't sit still. The toys are really advanced. The robots can actually "talk" with you. What you communicate with them, they can remember your words. There is a demo @3pm but we left the place in less than 10 mins after we get there. Can you imagine there is even a girl dressed up in those anime outfits? Japanese girls mah...
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We walked to Douby Ghaut, thought want to catch a soft toy for her but the toys there are not that nice so I dropped the idea. Little Alex keep on whining that she wants to take train train...
So we took the Circle Line.... to Kallang Leisure Park. I realised that I had been there before few years back. That time when I went there I drove so I got no impression, now I was there again then I remembered.
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I spotted Yogi bear from a distance, I handed little Alex her seaweed for her to eat and I quickly snap a shot at it.
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Nothing much to shop there too so we left again...
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Then we went to Eastpoint @Simei. Never took little Alex there yet, so.... I asked her have we been there before and she said no... We had our tea-break there, had fried carrot cake with green tea. She didn't eat a lot during her lunch so I guess she must be hungry at that time. She did eat quite a lot, I keep on feeding her until she didn't want to eat anymore.
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I just discovered something... Little Alex was quite timid when taking the lift. When the lift door opens, she would want me to hold her hand entering. So I push her inside and I say bye bye to her, she will yell and run out of the lift.
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Nothing much to shop at Eastpoint, I thought of going home but I was thinking since we are already in the east side so why not take her to the Airport? The last time when we went there little Alex was still in sleeping mode, this time she is wide awake.
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We went to Terminal 1,2,3... one at a time. My intention is to make her stay awake so that at nite she will sleep till the next morning.
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Saw this big propeller at Terminal 1 or 2, I can't remember. Most probably it's at Terminal 1.



Saw this design at the ceiling at Terminal 3....


I am supposed to take little Alex to the viewing but she end of playing here. She saw other children climbing so she join in the fun too. And you know what, there is a sign that no climbing is allowed.
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And that is little Alex's Children Day trip....