Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Little Alex went to the Ommi Theatre for her Children's Day outing and when I fetched her from her school, I saw this on her hand..

Nice tattoo, huh...

I didn't washed it off cos' I think it's nice on her little hand. The next day when little Alex went to school, still with her tattoo, I realised that she is the only one still with it intact on her hand.

So when after school she got home I washed it off for her.

Now her little hand is as clean as new.

An Inspirational clip to share....

Monday, September 27, 2010

Seeds of Greatness

Take a Moment (an excerpt from Denis's The Seeds of Greatness Treasury)

Take a moment to listen today
to what your children are trying to say,
Listen to them, whatever you door they won’t be there to listen to you.

Listen to their problems, listen to their needs
Praise their smallest triumphs, praise their littlest deeds;
Tolerate their chatter, amplify their laughter,
Find out what’s the matter, find out what they’re after.

If we tell our children all the bad in them we see,
They’ll grow up exactly how we hoped they’d never be;
But if we tell our children we’re so proud to wear their name,
They’ll grow up believing that they’re winners in the game.

So tell them that you love them every single night;
And though you scold them make sure you hold them
and tell them they’re all right, “Good night, happy dreams,
Tomorrow’s looking bright.”

Take a moment to listen today to what
your children are trying to say
Listen to them whatever you do, and
They’ll be there to listen to you. —Denis Waitley

Money doesn’t make you sophisticated. Only study and practice make you sophisticated. Even people of modest means can become sophisticated because it is within study and practice. How much is a night out at the symphony? About 30 dollars. You say, “Poor people can’t afford 30 dollars to go to the symphony.” Yes, they can. It’s only 30 Hershey bars!

If You Had a Million Dollars by Ron White

I saw a movie a few years ago that had a very funny scene. One of the characters asked the other what he would do if he had a million dollars. He replied, “Nothing…. If I had a million dollars, I would just relax all day long and enjoy myself.” Another guy chimed in and seriously stated, “Hey, you don’t need a million dollars to do that... just look at my cousin... he is flat broke and he doesn’t do a thing but sit there all day long.”

I think I laughed about that for an hour and it just caused me to smile again.

Although the line in the movie was a joke, it illustrates a truth of life. Whatever it is that you wish to do, do it! Why wait? Seriously, why put off your dreams until tomorrow or until you get all your ducks in a row. Guess what? The ducks of life sometimes have a mind of their own and tend to wander a lot. You may never get all your ducks in a row.

I have been a professional speaker since I was 20. When I was 27, I was speaking with a woman and she said, “I am 59 years old and by the time I am 65 I would like to have my master’s degree and be working as a professional speaker.” I looked at her perplexed as I inquired, “Why in the world are you going to wait until you are 65 and have a degree? I am 27 years old with no degree and I am speaking tomorrow!” You could tell that my statement shattered her reality and she had no response.

This woman was waiting to pursue her dream until everything was just perfect. Until she had everything that she thought she needed to ensure maximum success when in reality the greatest thing that she could have done is simply move in the direction of what she desires.
The greatest resistor of human dreams is the “if I had a million dollars” attitude. Individuals dream that if they had a million dollars, they could pursue their vision. No they wouldn’t! If you don’t pursue your vision when you are broke, when you grasp a million, you will create another reason why it isn’t possible. Or if you are one of the few who would actually live their dreams if you had a million dollars, what is the probability that you are going to save a million dollars?
Ever heard this train of thought?

Once I get out of high school, I am going to see the world and travel…
Once I finish college, I am going to see the world and travel…
Once I get married, I am going to travel with my spouse…
After our kids are older, we are going to see the world and travel…
When our kids get out of high school, we are going to see the world and travel…
As soon as we retire, we are going to see the world and travel…
Now, I am out of school, kids are gone and I am retired—if I was younger and my health was better, I would see the world and travel…

Don’t wait…

Many questions of life are complicated and unclear. Yet the question of whether you should pursue your dream or wait until you have a million dollars is as clear as the waters of Fiji. You are not promised tomorrow. You are not promised a million dollars. Pursue your dream today and inch closer or it will remain equally as distant as the pages of your life near the final chapter.

It Is Up To You by Jim Rohn

One of the first things successful people realize is the old adage, “If it is to be, it is up to me.” That is, for you, the fact that your success and your course is up to you. This doesn’t mean that you do it all alone. It simply means that you take responsibility for your life and your career.
Too many people today look at opportunity and figure it is up to someone else to make sure they get it. They look at financial security and hope that the government will make sure they live safely in retirement or in case of disability. They wait and wait, figuring that it is up to someone else. And then the wait is over, and it is too late to do anything. Their life is over and they are filled with regret.

This isn’t true for you however. You know that you must take responsibility for your life. It is up to you.

The fact is that nobody else is going to do it for you; you must do it yourself.

Now, some people may say, “Jim, that’s a lot of responsibility.” Friends, that is the best news you can ever hear. You get to choose your life. Hundreds of millions of people all around this world would give anything to live in the situation you do, just for the chance to have the opportunity to take control of their destiny. “It is up to you” is a great blessing!

Here’s why:

1. You get to chart your own destiny. Maybe you want to start a small business and stay there. That’s great because you can choose that. Maybe you want to create a small chain of stores. Maybe you want to have a net worth of $100 million. That’s okay too. The idea is that you get to choose. You can do whatever you like. Different people have different dreams and they should live them accordingly.

2. You can reap what you sow. Sleep in and go to work late and reap the return. Or get up early and outwork the others and earn a greater return. Place your capital at risk and earn a return or place it at greater risk and perhaps reap a greater return. You decide what you will sow and, thus, what you will reap.

3. No one else can stop you from getting your dream. Yes, there will always be things that come up and people who may not like what you are doing, but you can just move on and chart your own course. There is great freedom in that.

4. You experience the joy of self-determination. There is no greater pride than knowing you set your mind on something and accomplished it. Those who live with a victim mentality never get to experience the joy of accomplishment because they are always waiting for someone else to come to the rescue. Those who take responsibility get to live the joy of seeing a job well done.
Let me ask you a question: Where will you be in 5 years? 10 years? 25 years? Do you know? Do you have an idea? Have you ever dreamed about it or set a goal for it? Are you willing to take responsibility and recognize that, “It is up to you?”

You will be wherever you decide to be in those timeframes. You decide. It is up to you.

And that is very exciting!
How to Gain the Upper Hand in Any Situation

Benjamin Franklin knew the value of preparation. “By failing to prepare you are preparing to fail,” the influential author, inventor and Founding Father once said. Planning and preparation will give you a 10-times greater chance to achieve your goals. It will reduce wasted time and effort, while improving and maximizing results.

Here are four ways to out-prepare your competition:

1. Study: While others are filling their time with entertainment and escapism, superachievers are studying and improving their craft. Having more knowledge, data, background and intelligence will always give you the upper hand in any situation.

2. Develop: Develop the skills necessary to achieve excellence in your game. Brian Tracy explains that every skill you need to succeed is learnable. There is nothing you cannot learn and master to achieve anything you want in business and in life.

3. Practice: Sporting teams practice for games. Musicians practice for concerts. Busy professionals and entrepreneurs should practice the skills they need for success—public speaking, impactful writing and interpersonal communication. After all, practice makes perfect.

4. Play the Game in Your Head First: Before making a presentation, an important phone call or having an important meeting, play the event out in your head exactly as you want it to happen first. It is amazing how your posture, energy and expectation will change, and your performance will rise to meet it. Try it.

17 Principles of Personal Achievement by Napoleon Hill

Lesson 1: Definiteness of PurposeDefiniteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement. Without a purpose and a plan, people drift aimlessly through life.

Lesson 2: Mastermind AllianceThe Mastermind principle consists of an alliance of two or more minds working in perfect harmony for the attainment of a common definite objective. Success does not come without the cooperation of others.

Lesson 3: Applied FaithFaith is a state of mind through which your aims, desires, plans and purposes may be translated into their physical or financial equivalent.

Lesson 4: Going the Extra MileGoing the extra mile is the action of rendering more and better service than that for which you are presently paid. When you go the extra mile, the Law of Compensation comes into play.

Lesson 5: Pleasing PersonalityPersonality is the sum total of one’s mental, spiritual and physical traits and habits that distinguish one from all others. It is the factor that determines whether one is liked or disliked by others.

Lesson 6: Personal InitiativePersonal initiative is the power that inspires the completion of that which one begins. It is the power that starts all action. No person is free until he learns to do his own thinking and gains the courage to act on his own.

Lesson 7: Positive Mental AttitudePositive mental attitude is the right mental attitude in all circumstances. Success attracts more success while failure attracts more failure.

Lesson 8: EnthusiasmEnthusiasm is faith in action. It is the intense emotion known as burning
desire. It comes from within, although it radiates outwardly in the expression of one’s voice and countenance.

Lesson 9: Self-DisciplineSelf-discipline begins with the mastery of thought. If you do not control your thoughts, you cannot control your needs. Self-discipline calls for a balancing of the emotions of your heart with the reasoning faculty of your head.

Lesson 10: Accurate ThinkingThe power of thought is the most dangerous or the most beneficial power available to man, depending on how it is used.

Lesson 11: Controlled AttentionControlled attention leads to mastery in any type of human endeavor, because it enables one to focus the powers of his mind upon the attainment of a definite objective and to keep it so directed at will.

Lesson 12: TeamworkTeamwork is harmonious cooperation that is willing, voluntary and free. Whenever the spirit of teamwork is the dominating influence in business or industry, success is inevitable. Harmonious cooperation is a priceless asset that you can acquire in proportion to your

Lesson 13: Adversity & DefeatIndividual success usually is in exact proportion of the scope of the defeat the individual has experienced and mastered. Many so-called failures represent only a temporary defeat that may prove to be a blessing in disguise.

Lesson 14: Creative VisionCreative vision is developed by the free and fearless use of one’s imagination. It is not a miraculous quality with which one is gifted or is not gifted at birth.

Lesson 15: HealthSound health begins with a sound health consciousness, just as financial success begins with a prosperity consciousness.

Lesson 16: Budgeting Time & MoneyTime and money are precious resources, and few people striving for success ever believe they possess either one in excess.

Lesson 17: HabitsDeveloping and establishing positive habits leads to peace of mind, health and financial security. You are where you are because of your established habits and thoughts and

Building a Successful Team by Jim Rohn

Once you've set a goal for yourself as a leader—whether it is to create your own enterprise, energize your organization, build a church, or excel in sports—the challenge is to find good people to help you accomplish that goal. Gathering a successful team of people is not only helpful, it's necessary.

So to guide you in this daunting task of picking the right people, I'm going to share with you a four-part checklist.

Number One: Check each candidate's history. Seek out available information regarding the individual's qualifications to do the job. That's the most obvious step.

Number Two: Check the person's interest level. If they are interested, they are probably a good prospect. Sometimes people can fake their interest, but if you've been a leader for a while, you will be a capable judge of whether somebody is merely pretending. Arrange face-to-face conversation, and try to gauge his or her sincerity to the best of your ability. You won't hit the bull's-eye every time, but you can get pretty good at spotting what I call true interest.

Number Three: Check the prospect's responses. A response tells you a lot about someone's integrity, character and skills. Listen for responses like these: "You want me to get there that early?" "You want me to stay that late?" "The break is only ten minutes?" "I'll have to work two evenings a week and Saturdays?" You can't ignore these clues. A person's responses are good indications of his or her character and of how hard he or she will work. Our attitudes reflect our inner selves, so even if we can fool others for a while, eventually, our true selves will emerge.

Number Four: Check results. The name of the game is results. How else can we effectively judge an individual's performance? The final judge must be results.

There are two types of results to look for. The first is activity results. Specific results are a reflection of an individual's productivity. Sometimes we don't ask for this type of result right away, but it's pretty easy to check activity. If you work for a sales organization and you've asked your new salesman, John, to make ten calls in the first week, it's simple to check his results on Friday. You say, "John, how many calls did you make?" John says, "Well..." and starts telling a story, making an excuse. You respond, "John, I just need a number from one to ten." If his results that first week are not good, it is a definite sign. You might try another week, but if that lack of precise activity continues, you'll soon realize that John isn't capable of becoming a member of your team.

The second area you need to monitor is productivity. The ultimate test of a quality team is measurable progress in a reasonable amount of time. And here's one of the skills of leadership: Be up front with your team as to what you expect them to produce. Don't let the surprises come later.

When you're following this four-part checklist, your instincts obviously play a major role. And your instincts will improve every time you go through the process. Remember, building a good team will be one of your most challenging tasks as a leader. It will reap you multiple rewards for a long time to come.

Good Game by Ron White

I was eight years old. Looking back I remember walking across the baseball diamond of a Little League field and forming a line to pass the team that we had just played. The drill was to shake their hands and say, “Good game!”

I learned something at the age of eight. It is a lot easier to do that when you win!

When you lose, you have a tendency to slap the hand—instead of shake it—and look at the ground instead of the eyes. This is not only true at eight, but it is true for adults as well. A few years ago, I played 16 games in a softball league. You know you are on a bad softball team when motivational speaker Ron White is the standout superstar of the team! We lost 15 games in a ROW! It was humiliating. During the age-old “Good game” handshake after each loss, I made a point to look each player in the eye and shake, not slap, the hand. I did this because I knew that when I was eight years old I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t look my opponents in the eye and congratulate them on a good game. Somehow I took the loss as a hit on my self-worth and felt my self-confidence had been slapped; therefore I did what most eight-year-olds do and I slapped the opponent’s hand, not giving the satisfaction of a shake. I was wrong at the age of eight. I’m happy today as an adult that I have learned this lesson, and the lesson is: There is something to be said for losing well.

In 1960, Richard Nixon could have contested the close presidential election. He didn’t. He lost well and was elected a decade later to the same office. A few years ago, John Thune lost a razor thin election in South Dakota. He could have contested the election. He didn’t. He lost well and eventually won a Senate seat.

In 2000, John Ashcroft lost a Senate race to a woman who was standing in for her husband who passed away months before. He could have contested. He didn’t and became attorney-general.
Whether it is a baseball game, office promotion or political race, you can tell a lot about a person by how they handle defeat. The individual who handles defeat as a minor setback is not allowing the event to define him. On the other hand, someone who cannot handle defeat is allowing the event to define his self-worth. Events can only define your self-worth if you allow them to. You cease allowing events to define your self-worth when you handle defeat as a learning experience and remount the horse that has thrown you for another ride.

In money, your career or love, when you lose—as hard as it may be—look them in the eye, refuse to allow the events to shape your self-worth and shake their hand literally or metaphorically as you say, “Good game.” You just might find yourself winning the next game.

Success Is Easy, but So Is Neglect by Jim Rohn

People often ask me how I became successful in a six-year period of time while many of the people I knew did not. The answer is simple: The things I found to be easy to do, they found to be easy not to do. I found it easy to set the goals that could change my life. They found it easy not to. I found it easy to read the books that could affect my thinking and my ideas. They found that easy not to. I found it easy to attend the classes and the seminars, and to get around other successful people. They said it probably really wouldn’t matter. If I had to sum it up, I would say what I found to be easy to do, they found to be easy not to do. Six years later, I’m a millionaire and they are all still blaming the economy, the government, and company policies, yet they neglected to do the basic, easy things.

In fact, the primary reason most people are not doing as well as they could and should, can be summed up in a single word: neglect.

It is not the lack of money—banks are full of money. It is not the lack of opportunity—America, and much of the world, continues to offer the most unprecedented and abundant opportunities of the last six thousand years of recorded history. It is not the lack of books—libraries are full of books—and they are free! It is not the schools—the classrooms are full of good teachers. We have plenty of ministers, leaders, counselors and advisors.

Everything we would ever need to become rich and powerful and sophisticated is within our reach. The major reason that so few take advantage of all that we have is simply neglect.
Neglect is like an infection. Left unchecked it will spread throughout our entire system of disciplines and eventually lead to a complete breakdown of a potentially joy-filled and prosperous human life.

Not doing the things we know we should do causes us to feel guilty, and guilt leads to an erosion of self-confidence. As our self-confidence diminishes, so does the level of our activity. And as our activity diminishes, our results inevitably decline. And as our results suffer, our attitude begins to weaken. And as our attitude begins the slow shift from positive to negative, our self-confidence diminishes even more... and on and on it goes.

So my suggestion is that when giving the choice of “easy to” and “easy not to” that you do not neglect to do the simple, basic, “easy”; but potentially life-changing activities and disciplines.

Monday, September 20, 2010

Last Sunday took little Alex out.
Now I teach her to say:
"at night 10pm sleep"
"morning 7am wake up"
"before sleep must brush teeth, go pee pee and kiss papa"
"morning wake up, wash hands wash face and kiss papa"
So on the way to take MRT, I asked her those 4 questions... And she can remember all 4. So I just casually ask her:
"So how many times you have to kiss papa?"
Guess what is her answer?
She think for a while and said "many, many times..." haha!!
We took the train to Outram Park, then we walk to Furama City Centre. Took her for a peek at Tiffany's... Maybe next time shall take her there for lunch. She keep saying she is hungry and she wants to eat fishballs so we left the place and search for fishballs.... and we end up at Central. No fishballs so we had Burger King for lunch. She said she want to eat ice cream so I ordered for her ice cream.
After lunch we continue walking.... to City Hall. Took some pics there, then I realised little Alex's pants was stained with grease. I think it was from the escalator she was sitting on the steps just now. Throughout the day she keep telling me her pants is dirty... Can't get the grease off her pants so I just told her go home then we washed it. Dunno where to take her to, so we took the MRT to Somerset.
Walked around Somerset 313, then we went to Orchard Central. Took some pics outside Orchard Central, then we went inside for the air-con. There is a flea market going inside but little Alex is only interested at the water fountain. I gotta go and catch her back a few times cos' she keep running away.

On the way upwards I saw some nice displays so I snapped a few shots.

Then she said she want to sleep so I told her to sleep for a while on my shoulders. While she is sleeping I went to Takashimaya for a walk. Visited the bookstore there, wanted to buy a book but I got no hands to carry so I drop the idea. Then I went to Borders too. Took a peek at little Alex in the mirror and she is sleeping soundly still. I also take the chance to rest a while at the seats on level 2.
My back is aching from carrying the going-to-be 14kg little Alex. 4 yrs old and still only 14kg... But still she is pretty heavy.
I wait for her to wake up then we proceed towards Tanglin Mall. Let her walk when she wants to and carry her again. She keeps complaining that her feet are hurting from the shoes she's wearing so now I let her wear her socks. And I doesn't know how does she walk and her socks are so dirty.

Haha... it sounds so true... I spotted this at the supermarket.
We stayed at Tanglin Mall for a while before taking a bus to Holland Village. Nowadays she keeps on pointing to buses that passed by. I teach her bus #502 goes to Orchard, bus #185 goes to Holland Village, bus #99 goes to IMM, bus #242 goes to Jurong Point.
We walked around Holland V and finally we settled down at Wendy's for dinner. You know it, used to be Burger King... I told her to sit still upstairs while I queue up. She was sitting at the seat when I went downstairs, then a while later I saw her little head peeping at me at the stairs. I signalled her to go back to her seat and wait for me... and she disappeared. I was not really hungry so I just ordered something to eat. Initially I wanted to take her to Starbucks but I dun want to spend too much so....

Guess what is this? It is called All Beef Chilli.... It contains bits of beef and beans, and it's not hot at all. I gave some to little Alex to try. She at first say "chilli hot hot" I told her it's not hot at all. She even show me the little hand fanning her mouth, with her tongue sticking out. I let her eat a bit and she wants more...

this is Frosty Strawberry shake...
After dinner we took bus #7 back to Clementi Interchange and took bus #99 back home.
Forget to mention, when we are at Orchard I bought for her another top. Now she got 3 tops of the same kind.. "Little Miss Sunshine", "Little Miss Chatterbox", and latest "Little Miss Naughty".

Tuesday, September 07, 2010

Bill Gates speech: 11 rules your kids did not and will not learn in school

Rule 1: Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2: The world doesn't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.