Friday, March 27, 2009

Allowing Setbacks to Spur You On by Denis Waitley

Many times, we look at high achievers and assume they had a string of lucky breaks or made it without much effort. Usually, the opposite is true, and the so-called superstar had an incredibly rough time before he or she attained any lasting success.

It may motivate you more toward your own goals to know that some of the most famous and well-known people in modern times had to overcome as difficult obstacles as anyone before they finally reached the top It takes persistence and total commitment to your goals, but it's possible!
You may not know the background of a certain laundry worker who earned sixty dollars a week at his job but had the burning desire to be a writer. His wife worked nights, and he spent nights and weekends typing manuscripts to send to publishers and agents. Each one was rejected with a form letter that gave him no assurance that his manuscripts had even been read. I've received a few of those special valentines myself through the years, and I can tell you first hand that they're not the greatest self-esteem builders.

But finally, a warm, more personal rejection letter came in the mail to the laundry worker, stating that although his work was not good enough at this point to warrant publishing, he had promise as a writer and he should keep trying.

He forwarded two more manuscripts to the same friendly-yet-rejecting publisher over the next eighteen months, and as before, he struck out with both of them too. Finances got so tight for the young couple that they had to disconnect their telephone to pay for medicine for their baby.
Feeling totally discouraged, he threw his latest manuscript into the garbage. His wife, totally committed to his life goals and believing in his talent, took the manuscript out of the trash and sent it back to Doubleday, the publisher who had sent the friendly rejections. The book, titled Carrie, sold over five million copies, and as a movie, became one of the top-grossing films in 1976. The laundry worker, of course, was Stephen King.

The main message - believe in your ability to turn obstacles into opportunities. Too often people try to storm their obstacles as if they're forts that need to be taken. It's better to step back and ask yourself: "Did I cause this obstacle by my own actions or lack of them? Did someone else cause this obstacle? Is this obstacle one that grew out of the natural progression of circumstances?"

This last question may seem complex, but it holds a secret to the way you can set and reach your goals and achieve your destiny!
So much of the personal development part, now let's talk a bit of the lass called momo.

Well, she is fine.... As per normal, still so noti.

She sometimes refused to sleep early at nite, nowadays she doesn't want to sleep beside me anymore, I dunno why....

She is still the same, she likes to eat what is in your plate but not hers, even when both are of the same food.

Lately I have took some pics of her in action. I wanted to upload them here but on 2nd thoughts I think it's better not to. She is growing up and she needs her privacy.

We have discovered she is really a left-handed. She likes to eat her food using her left hand.

Next week, I might want to bring her out to the east side to one of the condo my friend is staying. She told me there are a few playgrounds so momo can sweat it out. Nice cosy bed for her to sleep just in case momo gets too tired running and swimming.
Persistence is a state of mind, so it can be cultivated. Like all states of mind, persistence is based upon definite causes, including:
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1. DEFINITENESS OF PURPOSE. Knowing what you want is the first step and, perhaps, the most important step toward the development of persistence. A strong motive forces you to surmount many difficulties.
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2. DESIRE. It is comparatively easy to acquire and maintain persistence in pursuing the object of intense desire.
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3. SELF-RELIANCE. Belief in your ability to carry out a plan encourages you to follow the plan through with persistence.
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4. DEFINITENESS OF PLANS. Organized plans, even though they may be weak and entirely impractical, encourage persistence.
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5. ACCURATE KNOWLEDGE. Knowing that your plans are sound, based upon experience or observation, encourages persistence; "getting" instead of "knowing" destroys persistence.
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6. COOPERATION. Sympathy, understanding and harmonious cooperation with others tend to develop persistence.
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7. WILLPOWER. The habit of concentrating your thoughts upon the building of plans for the attainment of a definite purpose leads to persistence.
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8. HABIT. Persistence is the direct result of habit. The mind absorbs and becomes a part of the daily experiences upon which it feeds. Fear, the worst of all enemies, can be effectively cured by forced repetition of acts of courage. Everyone who has seen active service in war know this.
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The 10 Mind Stimuli
The human mind responds to stimuli through which is may be "keyed up" to high rates of vibration, known as enthusiasm, creative imagination, intense desire, etc. The stimuli to which the mind responds most freely are:
1. The desire for sex expression
2. Love
3. A burning desire for fame, power, financial gain, money
4. Music
5. Friendship between either those of the same sex or those of the opposite sex
6. A Master Mind alliance based upon the harmony of two or more people who ally themselves for spiritual or temporal advancement
7. Mutual suffering, such as that experienced by people who are persecuted
8. Autosuggestion
9. Fear
10. Narcotics and alcohol
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The Seven Major Positive Emotions
The emotion of DESIRE
The emotion of FAITH
The emotion of LOVE
The emotion of SEX
The emotion of ENTHUSIASM
The emotion of ROMANCE
The emotion of HOPE
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The Seven Major Negative Emotions (to be avoided)
The emotion of FEAR
The emotion of JEALOUSY
The emotion of HATRED
The emotion of REVENGE
The emotion of GREED
The emotion of SUPERSTITION
The emotion of ANGER
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Indecision is the seeding of fear! Indecision crystallizes into doubt, the two blend and become fear!

Monday, March 23, 2009

Some to share after finishing reading the book, Think And Grow Rich.
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Success requires no apologies, failure permits no alibis.
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Every failure brings with it the seed of an equivalent success.
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If you think you are beaten, you are,
If you think you dare not, you don't,
If you like to win, but you think you can't,
It is almost certain you won't.
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If you think you'll lose, you've lost
For out of the world we find,
Success begins with a person's will-
It's all in the state mind.
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If you think you are outclassed, you are,
You've got to think high to rise.
You've got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.
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Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger or faster man
But soon or late the one who wins
Is the one WHO THINKS HE CAN!
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The Major Attributes of Leadership
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1. Unwavering courage
2. Self-Control
3. A keen sense of justice
4. Definiteness of decision
5. Definiteness of plans
6. The habit of doing more than paid for
7. A pleasing personality
8. Sympathy and understanding
9. Mastery of detail
10. Willingness of assume full responsibility
11. Cooperation
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The 10 Major causes of failure in leadership
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1. Inability to organize details
2. Unwillingless to render humble service
3. Expectation of pay for what they "know" instead of what they do with what they know
4. Fear of competition from followers
5. Lack of imagination
6. Selfishness
7. Intemperance
8. Disloyalty
9. Emphasis of the "authority" of leadership
10. Emphasis of title
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Follow the QSS formula.
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QUALITY of service means the performance of every detail, in connection with your position, in the most efficient manner possible, with the objects of greater efficiency always in mind.
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QUANTITY of service means the HABIT of giving all the service of which you are capable, at all times, with the purpose of increasing the amount of service as you develop greater skill through practice and experience. Emphasis is again placed in the word HABIT.
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SPIRIT of service means the HABIT of agreeable, harmonious conduct that will induce cooperation from associates and fellow employees.
Adequacy of QUALITY AND QUANTITY or service is not sufficient to maintain a permanent market for your services. The conduct, or the SPIRIT, in which you deliver service is a strong determining factor in connection with both the price you receive and the duration of employment.

Wednesday, March 18, 2009



Guess what? Guess what.... Chairman's Club Member, 9 diamond President John Tartol walk-in song.

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Before I returned the book back to the library, there are a few more sharing to be done.

Money doesn't change men, it merely unmasks them. If a man naturally selfish, or arrogant, or greedy, the money brings it out, that's all.
Henry Ford
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People who are insecure... give them confidence.
People want to feel special... sincerely compliment them.
People desire a better tomorrow... show them hope.
People need to be understood... listen to them.
People are selfish... speak to their need first.
People get emotionally low... encourage them.
People want to be associated with success... help them win.
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Try not to be men of success. Rather, become men of value.
Albert Einstein
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If a person will spend one hour a day on the same subject for five years, that person will be an expert on that subject.
Earl Nightengale
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The greatest of all insights is that we cannot be tomorrow what we do not do today.

Friday, March 13, 2009

A tribute to someone who changes my life....

When he is born, he cries while the world rejoice. He has live his life such that now he is gone, the world cry while he rejoices.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Currently I'm reading this book, Today Matters, by John Maxwell. As usual, I shall share with you some quotes I find it meaningful.
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Hoping for a good future without investing in today is like a farmer waiting for a crop without ever planting any seed.
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Good Decisions - Daily Discipline = A Plan Without a Payoff
Daily Discipline - Good Decisions = Regimentation without Reward
Good Decisions + Daily Discipline = A Masterpiece of Potential
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You don't make decisions because they're EASY;
You don't make decisions because they're CHEAP;
You don't make decisions because they're POPULAR;
You make decisions because they're RIGHT.
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Decisions helps us start. Discipline helps us finish.
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Make an obstacle an opportunity. Make a negative a positive. If you can't give 100 percent, you won't make it. Never quit!
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Big Picture Thinking: the ability to think beyond yourself and your world in order to process ideas with a holistic perspective.
Focus Thinking: the ability to think with clarity on issues by removing distractions and mental clutter from your mind.
Creative Thinking: the ability to break out of your "box" of limitations and explore ideas and options to experience a breakthrough.
Realistic Thinking: the ability to build a solid foundation on facts to think with certainty.
Strategic Thinking: the ability to implement plans that give direction for today and increase your potential for tomorrow.
Possibility Thinking: the ability to unleash your enthusiasm and hope to find solutions for even seemingly impossible situations.
Reflective Thinking: the ability to revisit the past in order to gain a true perspective and think with understanding.
Questioning Popular Thinking: the ability to reject the limitations of common thinking and accomplish uncommon results.
Unselfish Thinking: the ability to consider others and their journey to think with collaboration.
Bottom-Line Thinking: the ability to focus on results and maximum return to reap full potential of your thinking.
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Any time you make a commitment to something, it will be tested.
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Always bear in mind that your own resolution to success is more important than any other thing.
Abraham Lincoln
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You have to pay a price. You will find that everything in life exacts a price, and you will have to decide whether the price is worth the prize.
US Senator Sam Nunn
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If a person gets his attitude toward money straight, it will help straighten out almost every other area of his life
Billy Graham

Saturday, March 07, 2009

Today was a busy day cos' I need to rush here rush there; rush to Serangoon, then to Paya Lebar, then to work. And the best thing is today is raining pretty heavily. I was caught in the rain, my hair is wet, my backpack is wet, my t-shirt is wet... But not my spirit. It was high cos' today I got some good results in my business.

I went to Paya Lebar to have my dinner. I had the all time favourite Nasi Kuning. The store lady is nowhere to be found, later it turned out to be the lady who is dozing off sitting behind me. She is a nice lady, cos' she gave me a really big chicken drumstick. So big... it's the same size at the breadth of the plate... Imagine how full am I after eating it. So oily and filling... *burp*

I bought my very first personal development book from Popular.

Got 20% discount and it only costs $14

I mean, hey, it's good to do some investment to get rich, right?

Thursday, March 05, 2009

Shall blog a bit of momo here, since this lass is now doing her own reading and the best part is she isn't disturbing me right now. Now momo is attending her pre-school, she isn't small anymore. It's time for her to mix around with other kids. And here are some of her homework. Well, if you know how to appreciate them it's artwork. If you dun, then they are just a piece of drawing.


E for elephant. Pink elephant.

Well, this artwork may seems to be a little... you know. Well, maybe at the point of time when momo is colouring it, someone gets on her nerves, that's why.


This is my favourite one. It's her left-hand print. You know what as times go, momo will get older and her hand won't be the same anymore.


I was passing by the Science Centre one evening and I was going to Mac when I saw this dinosaur, and since I got my camera with me so I snap a pic of it.
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Just finished reading the book, The 21 Indispensable Qualities Of A Leader, by John Maxwell.
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Here are some sharing;
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When it comes to commitment, there are really only 4 types of people;
Cop-outs:People who have no goals and do not commit.
Hold-outs: People who don't know if they can reach their goals, so they're afraid to commit.
Drop-outs: People who start toward a goal but quit when the going gets strong.
All-outs: People who set goals, commit to them, and pay the price to reach them.
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The person who knows how will always have a job, but the person who knows why will always be the boss.
Benjamin Franklin
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Smart leaders believe only half of what they hear. Discerning leaders know which half to believe.
John Maxwell
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Focus 70% on strength, 25% on new things, 5% on areas of weakness
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Regard money as a resource
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Someone once said that when it comes to money, you can't win. If you focus on making it, you're materialistic. If you try to but don't make any, you're a loser. If you make a lot and keep it, you're a miser. If you make it and spend it, you're a spendthrift. If you don't care about making any, you're unambitious. If you make a lot and still have it when you die, you're a fool - for trying to take it with you.

The only way to really win with money is to hold it loosely - and be generous with it to accomplish things of value. As E. Stanley Jones said, "Money is a wonderful servant but a terrible master. If it gets on top and you get under it, you will become a slave."

If you look at the lives of effective leaders, you will find that they often don't fit into a stereotypical mold. for example, more than 50% of all CEOs of Fortune 500 companies had C or C- averages in college. Nearly 75% of all US presidents were in the bottom half of their school classes. And more than 50% of all millionaire entrepreneurs never finished college. What makes it possible for people who might seem ordinary to achieve great things? The answer is passion. Nothing can take the place of passion in a leader's life.

A successful man is the one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.
David Brinkley, Television Journalist


A nursery in Canada displays this sign on it wall: "The best time to plant a tree is twenty-five ago... The second best time is today." Plant the tree of self-discipline in your life today.


Your growth determines who you are.
Who you are determines who you attract.
Who you attract determines the success of your organization.

If you want to grow your organization, you have to remain teachable.