Friday, February 27, 2009

Practice Being Like a Child by Jim Rohn

Remember the master teacher once said 2000 years ago, "Unless you can become like little children, your chances are zero, you haven't got a prayer." A major consideration for adults.

Be like children and remember there are four ways to be more like a child no matter how old you get –

1) Curiosity - Be curious. Childish curiosity. Learn to be curious like a child. What will kids do if they want to know something bad enough? You're right. They will bug you. Kids can ask a million questions. You think they're through. They've got another million. They will keep plaguing you. They can drive you right to the brink.

Also kids use their curiosity to learn. Have you ever noticed that while adults are stepping on ants, children are studying them? A child's curiosity is what helps them to reach, learn and grow.

2) Excitement - Learn to get excited like a child. There is nothing that has more magic than childish excitement. So excited you hate to go to bed at night. Can't wait to get up in the morning. So excited that you're about to explode. How can anyone resist that kind of childish magic? Now, once in awhile I meet someone who says, "Well, I'm a little too mature for all that childish excitement." Isn't that pitiful? You've got to weep for these kinds of people. All I've got to say is, "If you're too old to get excited, you're old." Don't get that old.

3) Faith - Faith like a child. Faith is childish. How else would you describe it? Some people say, "Let's be adult about it." Oh no. No. Adults too often have a tendency to be overly skeptical. Some adults even have a tendency to be cynical. Adults say, "Yeah. I've heard that old positive line before. It will be a long day in June before I fall for that positive line. You've got to prove to me it's any good." See, that's adult, but kids aren't that way. Kids think you can get anything. They are really funny. You tell kids, "We're going to have three swimming pools." And they say, "Yeah. Three. One each. Stay out of my swimming pool." See, they start dividing them up right away, but adults are not like that. Adults say, "Three swimming pools? You're out of your mind. Most people don't even have one swimming pool. You'll be lucky to get a tub in the back yard." You notice the difference? No wonder the master teacher said, "Unless you can become like little children, your chances, they're skinny."

4) Trust - Trust is a childish virtue, but it has great merit. Have you heard the _expression "sleep like a baby"? That's it. Childish trust. After you've gotten an A+ for the day, leave it in somebody else's hands.

Curiosity, excitement, faith and trust. Wow, what a powerful combination to bring (back) into our lives.

To Your Success,
Jim Rohn
Learn From Failure and Confirm with Success by Chris Widener

Most people think that failure is bad and success is good. I want to help you change your thinking about that if you fall into that category. I will give you that failure isn't fun and success is, but I think the following is true:

Both failure and success are good... if you know what their specific purpose is.

Of course we know that success is good, but why? Success is good because it confirms things for us.

Success confirms our plans.
Success confirms our decisions.
Success confirms our resources.
Success confirms our strategies.
Success confirms our hunches.
Success confirms our teamwork.
Success confirms our risks.
Success confirms a lot of things!

So when you are successful, ask yourself the following question: What does this success confirm in my mind?

Now, what about failure? What is the role of failure and how in the world can it be GOOD?

Failure's role is to teach us. We learn from failure.
Failure teaches us that we need to change our plans.
Failure teaches us that we need to change our decisions.
Failure teaches us that we need to change our resources.
Failure teaches us that we need to change our strategies.
Failure teaches us that we need to change our hunches.
Failure teaches us that we need to change our teamwork.
Failure teaches us that we need to change our risks.
Failure teaches us that we need to change a lot of things!

But at least now we know one more thing that won't work! With every failure, we learn one more way we can abandon and focus in on what may be the correct way in the future! When we look at it that way, we set ourselves up for a powerfully successful future! So when you fail, ask yourself this question: What does this failure teach me? Remember, Success and Failure are both good. They can both be your friend... If you know what role they are to play in your life. Learn From Failure and Confirm with Success.

-- Chris Widener

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Multiple Skills for the 21st Century by Jim Rohn

I believe that in the 21st Century it is so important to have multiple skills. But what I also find is that if you are already in sales, network marketing or have an entrepreneurial business (or plan to in the future); you can gain the needed skills for the future while you create your income now.
Here's my short list for on the job training, so that you can learn while you earn.

I began my journey with sales, which of course dynamically changed my life back at age 25. The first year I multiplied my income by five. I was raised in farm country. I knew how to milk cows, but it didn't pay well. But sales altered the course of my life, learning to present a valid product in the marketplace, talk about its virtues and get somebody to say "yes." And then give them good service.

Then came recruiting, how to expand my business, build an organization. We have all heard the question, is it better to have one person selling a $1000 or have 100 people selling $10? If you ask me, I'll take the 100 at $10. Recruiting, the ability to multiply your efforts, once mastered, is one of life and leadership's greatest time management resources.

Then I learned organizing. Keeping your own schedule can be difficult at times, but now you are having to balance multiple tasks and people to get maximum results. But you will find that the payoff is massive once you have tapped into the synergy and momentum of group dynamics and teamwork.

Next is promotion. First it's the spring campaign and then the fall campaign, and then it's this month's objective's campaign. You never know when it's going to click for someone to want or need to buy from you or be a part of what you are doing, so having the offer or the special or the contest going when they're ready can make all the difference.

Then it's the recognition. Some people work harder for recognition than they do for money. It's the chance to belong. Getting people to do something that ordinarily on their own, they wouldn't think of doing. They could, but they don't think of it. You come along with a little promotion for this month or this quarter and everything changes for them, and I found that paid big money.

Then I learned communication. How to do the training, how to do the teaching, and probably the greatest gift of all is learning how to inspire with words. Inspire people to see themselves better than they are; all of those gifts, all of those skills. Being the voice that tells them they have made a wise decision and here's why.

Now, I believe with just this little short list I've given you, you'll be equipped. We've all watched what has happened the last 15 years. The guy had one skill - the company downsizes. His division is eliminated and since he only had one skill, now he is vulnerable. He's wandering around saying, "Oh my, the last few years I should have taken some classes that would have taught me a couple of more things and I wouldn't be here in this vulnerable position."
So my admonition -- learn some multiple skills, or should we say, back-up skills for the 21st Century and no better place to learn them than in what your already doing now.

To Your Success, Jim Rohn

"The sad fact is that people are poor because they have not yet decided to be rich. People are overweight and unfit because they have not yet decided to be thin and fit. People are inefficient
time wasters because they haven't yet decided to be highly productive in everything they do."
Brian Tracy
Just share some quotes I obtained from Napoleon Hill's Positive Action Plan....

Pick out some person whom you admires and imitate him or her as closely as you can. This may be hero worship, but it improves characters

The difference between starry-eyed hero worship and thoughtfully emulating models lies in the ability to make the distinction between good character traits and ones that may not be so good. Your heroes won't be perfect, none of us is.
Recognize that we are all human, forgive your heroes if they display failings, and continue to emulate the things about them that you like and respect. Comparing your own character to that of others who have achieved great success in their fields broadens your horizons and elevates your goals. When you see others have done and the character they have developed in the process, you will be able to better recognize how to improve your own performance.

Money is either a good or bad influence, according to the character of the person who possesses it.

It's true. Money has no character, no personality, no values. Its actions only reflect the desires of its owner. Money can build great hospitals and schools, or it can be gambled away or squandered on meaningless possessions. Money can build museums to house beautiful works of art, it may construct beautiful houses of worship - or it may be used to create instruments of war and destruction.
As you build your personal wealth, make sure you build your character by settling aside a portion of your income to help others. Choose a church, a charity, or a cause that you can enthusiastically support. Then give of your money and your time in support of that cause. The primary beneficiary of such noble actions is always the one who gives, not the one who receives.

You either ride life or it rides you. Your mental attitude determines who is "rider" and who is "horse".

There is no compromise or negotiation when it comes to who will run your life. Either you take charge and live a productive life of your choosing or you allow yourself to be ruled by circumstances. But there will inevitable be setbacks. In the old West, a cowboy expression went: "There never was a horse that couldn't be rode, and there never was a rider that couldn't be thrown." Like everyone else, you will have days when everything goes right and you are on top of the world. Relish those days, enjoy them, and remember them. Recall the euphoria that accompanied them when you need an extra measure of positive thinking to get back in the saddle after you've experienced an embarrassing and painful fall.

Where will you be ten years from now if you keep on going the way you're going?

Many people fail to realize that big success is the result of little successes achieved, often cover a very long period of time. Truly successful people are long term thinkers. They know that they must build upon each achievement and constantly learn now and better ways of doing things. A regular review of your progress is an essential part of goal-setting. A goal is little more than a wish unless it has a timetable for completion. Make sure your plan for your life includes short-, medium-, and long-term goals. Revise your goals as circumstances dictate, check them off when they are completed, and set new and bigger goals for yourself as you grow. And take time to reflect often to make sure you are on the right course - for you.

Your progress in life in your own mind and ends in the same place.

Every great accomplishments began with the germ of an idea in the mind of a great person, then was shaped for practical usefulness and finally transformed into reality. Make your mind a fertile ground for ideas through constant study and learning, and condition yourself through constant practice to discipline yourself to follow through on your good ideas. The most brilliant concept in the world is only a dream unless you take action. Even a mediocre idea that is put into practice is far more valuable than a flash of genius that languishes in a fallow, undisciplined mind.

The most interesting thing about a postage stamp is the persistence with which it sticks to it's job.

The tiny, insignificant postage stamp is a good example of what it is possible to achieve if you stick with the job until it is finished. Inconspicuously stuck on the corner of the envelope, it provides the impetus to keep moving until the entire packet reaches its ultimate destination. The influence you may have upon your company, your church, your family, or any organization is incalculable if you have the persistence to pursue your goal until you achieve it. It is an absolute certainty that you will encounter obstacles in any worthwhile endeavour. When you do, remember the inconsequential little postage stamp and stick with the job until it is finished.
Today I loaned another book from the library; My Own Worst Enemy by Alan Nelson foreword by John Maxwell.
Coming in from the Cold by Dr. John C. Maxwell
Sir Ernest Shackleton was a great explorer who found himself and his crew in a life-or-death crisis when they had to abandon ship in the icy waters around Antarctica.
It was 1914, and Shackleton's expedition had planned an unprecedented land crossing of the frozen continent. When the ship got stuck in the ice and sank, the crew began an unscheduled 18-month survival test. They stayed alive as they moved among the drifting ice floes until they eventually found an island, where they established a camp. When their provisions began to run low, Shackleton and several crewmembers boarded one of their salvaged lifeboats and made a daring 800-mile voyage to a whaling station. They returned with a ship, and all 27 men survived the ordeal.
There are two types of people during a crisis - those who freeze and those who focus. Shackleton might have been stranded in one of the coldest places on the planet, but his creativity never froze. Instead, it was critical to the team's survival.
As I studied Shackleton's experiences, three principles about leading with creativity during crisis came to mind.
1. Creative activity increases creative ability.As you become active in creativity, you gain more creative ability. Many people would love to have creative ability, but they've never done creative activities. When we freeze, we stop creating. Shackleton practiced "routine" creativity, for himself and for his crew. So when problems presented themselves, he and his crew never gave up on their ability to come up with creative solutions.
2. The rulebook no longer rules.Everybody wants to give you the rulebook. David Kelley was right when he said, "The most important thing I learned from big companies is that creativity gets stifled when everyone's got to follow the rules." And Thomas Edison, probably the greatest inventor ever, would tell people who visited his laboratory that, "There ain't no rules around here! We're trying to accomplish something." Structure and rules serve us well, but legalism can choke our creative spirit to its death.
3. God is the Great Creator.It doesn't make sense not to bring God - the Creator of the universe - into the creative process. No matter how much natural talent God has given us, God always can make it greater, better, bigger. That's why I pray for creativity. And when I pray for creativity, I ask for two things - I ask God to give me an idea or give me an example.
In our fast-paced, competitive marketplace, few resources are more valuable to organizations than creativity. But during a crisis, which is when real leadership either rises or falls, creativity often finds itself swallowed by urgency. Who has time to think outside the box when the box is collapsing around you?
Shackleton, however, saw beyond the problems to the big picture. He recognized creativity's importance in keeping him and his crew alive and functioning as a team when they had little margin for error in the bitter cold and isolation of Antarctica. More than a skill, creativity was an attitude in his life that enabled him to find solutions to the obstacles they faced. When others would have frozen - literally as well as figuratively, in this case - Shackleton focused creatively on surviving the crisis.

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Today I passed by one bookstore at the new extension Jurong Point. There are many books of personal development sold there. I dunno which one to buy.... This book or that book? You like Napolean Hill or Dale Carnegie...

Just for your info, the bookstore is located at B1 called Harris.

Saturday, February 14, 2009

Today is Valentine's Day. No one to celebrate with me cos' later I need to work at XXXX. I'm not going to reveal where is my workplace cos' you know now the cyber is getting more and more dangerous. You'll never know is there any sicko(s) who just come out from the Changi Women's Prison or Admiralty West Prison, got nothing better to do cos' she is stuck up with her life. Anyway, today is Valentine's Day and there will be many couples who going to have dinner at the town area. Posh cars, high end cars... Driven by the guys taking their girls to posh restaurants. Definitely they want to impress their girls... Since they can afford to pay $500 or more just for a meal with her, then for sure he can afford to give us tips of $10 or more. Do you agree? If you agree with me, then you're wrong. There are guys who just too stingy. They pretend to whip out a $10 note in his hand but when you drive his car over and hand his keys to him, the note will end up in his own pocket.

Scenario 1: He gives you his card and in his hand there is a $10 note. You run to pick up his car. You drive his car in front of him, he open the door for his g/f and close the door for her. Then he proceed to the driver's seat, and...... as he enters the car, the note oso enters in his pocket.

Scenario 2: He gives you his card and he says he will drive himself, you just need to tell him where is the lot. In his hand there is a $10 note. When you hand over the keys to him, he take it from you and at the same spilt second the $10 note slips into his pocket.

Sad to say, this 2 above scenarios applies to mostly Singaporeans. Of cos' not all Singaporeans, some are so generous that the card says $10 service they can give you $50. Wow....

Got some time left before I am leaving my home for work. Take some time to blog for a while...
Lately I wanted to take some pics for momo but she doesn't want me to snap her pics. She would block her face from the camera so I ask her why she doesn't want her pics to be taken. She said she is shy.... Shy?!?! My momo is never shy. After some prompting I realised that she want to keep a low profile woh...

Nah, I made it up myself. My momo is never shy. I think that it's time to stop uploading momo pics in my blog anymore. I still take pics of her, of cos' I do. Those who know me will know how much I loved this little girl. Right now as I blog, she is sleeping after taking her milk. Can you guess how tall is she now? Soon she will be 1m tall, then 1.2m tall, then 1.5m tall, then finally 1.77m tall. And I will go ohhh......

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Done with the book Winning With People...
I just want to share with you the "Principles" behind
The Readiness Question: Are we prepared for relationships?
The Lens Principle: Who we are determines how we see others.
The Mirror Principle: The first person we must examine is ourselves.
The Pain Principle: Hurting people hurt people and are easily hurt by them.
The Hammer Principle: Never use a hammer to swat a fly off someone's head.
The Elevator Principle: We can lift people up or take people down on relationships.
The Connection Question: Are we willing to focus on others?
The Big Picture Principle: The entire population if the world - with one minor exception - is composed of others.
The Exchange Principle: Instead of putting others in their place, we must put ourselves in their place.
The Learning Principle: Each person we meet had the potential to teach us something.
The Charisma Principle: People are interested in the person who is interested in them.
The Number 10 Principle: Believing the best in people usually brings the best out of people.
The Confrontation Principle: Caring for people should precede confronting people.
The Trust Question: Can we build mutual trust?
The Bedrock Principle: Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
The Situation Principle: Never let the situation mean more than the relationship.
The Bob Principle: When Bob has a problem with everyone, Bob is usually the problem.
The Approachability Principle: Being at ease with ourselves helps others be at ease with us.
The Foxhole Principle: When preparing for battle, dig a hole big enough for a friend.
The Investment Question: Are we willing to invest in others?
The Gradening Principle: All relationships need cultivation.
The 101 Percent Principle: Find the 1 percent we agree on and give 100 percent of our effort.
The Patience Principle: The journey with others is slower than the journey alone.
The Celebration Principle: The true test of relationships is not only how loyal we are when friends fail, but how thrilled we are when they suceed.
The High Road Principle: We go to a higher level when we treat others better than they treat us.
The Synergy Question: Can we create a win-win situation?
The Boomerang Principle: When we help others, we help ourselves.
The Friendship Principle: All things being equal, people will work with people they like; all things not being equal, they still will.
The Partnership Principle: Working together increase the odds of winning together.
The Satisfaction Principle: In great relationships, the joy of being together is enough.

Friday, February 06, 2009

Done with the book Becoming A Person Of Influence, I loaned another 2 books from the library; Positive Action Plan by Napoleon Hill and Winning With People by John Maxwell.

Just got home a couple of minutes earlier, had a bowl of soup and bathed.

Momo was sleeping on the floor outside when I came out of the bathroom. I got a shock, how come she can end up lying on the floor hugging her pillow. Now momo is very much grown up. She is not that simple minded lass as she used to be one year ago. Now you want to trick her, not so easy. Talking about momo, I haven't been taking pics for her quite some time already. Also no video clips of her too.

Am I a bad daddy?

Just some sharing from the book Becoming A Person of Influence,

The least important word: I.
The most important word: We.
The two most important words: Thank you.
The three most important words: All is forgiven.
The four most important words: What is your opinion?
The five most important words: You did a good job.
The six most important words: I want to understand you better.
Paradoxical Commandments of Leadership
People are illogical, unreasonable and self-centered - love then anyway
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives - do good anyway
If you're successful, you'll win false friends and true enemies - succeed anyway
The good you do today will perhaps be forgotten tomorrow - do good anyway
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable - be honest and frank anyway
The biggest man with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest man with the smallest idea - think big anyway
People favour underdogs but follow only hot dogs - fight for the few underdogs anyway
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight - build anyway
People really need help but may attack you if you help them - help them anyway
Give the world the best that you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth - give the world the best you have anyway.
If you can remember that you read something familiar, here's what Mother Teresa says